Harnesses

TL;DR: Strap-On Harnesses

Strap-on harnesses and harness and dildo sets, from $13 beginner harnesses to Spareparts and leather styles. Universal O-ring, briefs and boxers, thigh, corset, lingerie, vibrating and DP harnesses, with plus sizes too.

Key Takeaways

  • Styles: universal O-ring, underwear and briefs, thigh, corset, lingerie, vibrating and double penetration.
  • Sizing: one size adjustable, plus size, and Spareparts briefs from XXS to 5XL.
  • Brands: Sportsheets, Spareparts, Tantus, Strap-on-me, Lux Fetish, King Cock, Strap U and more.

Fitting a Shaft dildo? Shaft models have a harness compatible suction cup base, see our Shaft dildos. Need a dildo to go with it? Shop strap-on dildos, pegging dildos, suction cup dildos and thick and girthy dildos.

For packing or extra length, try our hollow strap-ons and read our hollow strap-on guide.

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How to Choose a Strap-On Harness

A harness holds a dildo against your body so your hands are free. The right one depends on comfort, how you like to move, and the dildo you're using. Most harnesses here use a removable O-ring, so you can swap toys whenever you like.

Styles You'll Find Here

  • Universal O-ring harnesses, like the Me You Us Adjustable and Basix Universal
  • Underwear and brief harnesses, like the Spareparts Tomboi, Joque and Deuce
  • Thigh harnesses, like the Sportsheets Thigh Harness and Body Dock Lap Strap
  • Leather harnesses, like the Sportsheets Latigo and Kinklab
  • Corset and lingerie styles from Em Ex Fit and Strap-on-me
  • Vibrating harnesses and kits, like the Tantus Bend Over
  • DP harnesses, like the Sportsheets Menage A Trois
  • Harness and dildo sets from King Cock, All American Whoppers and Strap U

Getting the Fit Right

Size the O-ring to the base of your dildo, not its length. The dildo should push through with a little effort and not slide back out. Most realistic dildos need a 1.5 to 2 inch ring, and many harnesses come with more than one ring size.

Single Strap vs Double Strap

Single strap harnesses are minimal and feel like a thong. Double strap or jock styles frame the butt and give more stability, which many people find easier to control.

Materials

Leather lasts the longest and holds the dildo firmly but needs more care. Nylon, neoprene and fabric are lighter, easier to wash and usually cheaper. Underwear styles feel the most like regular clothes.

Care Tips

Take the dildo out before cleaning. Hand wash fabric and nylon harnesses in warm soapy water and air dry. Wipe leather with a damp cloth and condition it now and then. Clean the dildo separately with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner.

Frequently Asked Questions

Will any dildo fit my harness?

Any dildo with a flared or suction cup base should work with an O-ring harness, as long as the base is wider than the ring.

What size O-ring do I need?

Measure the width of your dildo just above the base. Most people need a 1.5 to 2 inch ring.

Do you carry plus size harnesses?

Yes. Look for plus size models like the Sportsheets Plus Size Beginners, and Spareparts briefs that go up to 5XL.

Should I buy a harness kit or separate pieces?

A kit is easiest for a first strap-on since the fit is matched. Separate pieces give you more choice in dildo and harness style.

Can I wash my harness in the machine?

Some fabric harnesses can go in on a gentle cycle, but leather can't. Check the care label on each listing.